As a Licensed Marriage Therapist and Professional Counselor, I have worked with hundreds of people for over 25 years. All shared one thing: relationship concerns - either working on an existing one or searching for the right one, sometimes ending one. Efficient Love by Robert Goodman addresses the issues of those who are seeking the right person without wasting time and energy on the same old path to Mr. or Ms.Wrong. It's natural to feel reluctant in figuring out how to find someone with whom to share your life. But Mr. Goodman's book outlines the perfect structure for an "approach plan."
In my professional opinion, the best thing we can do to achieve any goal, especially relationship ones, is to approach, never avoid. After reading Efficient Love, I think you will no longer feel shy or reluctant but will greatly benefit from the ProActive methodology for seeking a lasting relationship which is so expertly outlined in Mr. Goodman's book.